To my mind, a man must choose a wife for himself, without advice from anybody. As I said to Tony before he ever proposed to this girl: Make sure that she’s good, and a lady, and healthy, and intelligent, and that she’s going to get on with your friends and relations, and you with hers–and then, my dear boy, if you feel that you can afford to marry–then I suppose there’s no help for it.
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